“Show me your friends, and I will show you who you are” is a common saying we tend to hear.
The people we surround ourselves with can often say a lot about us, from social gatherings, and even at work. We spoke about the challenges we can face having friends as unbelievers, how we overcome, and how we can look at scripture to guide us.
“Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? or what communion hath light with darkness?”
2 Corinthians 6:14 ASV
We then looked at some scenarios and see how we would advise the person in that situation:
Paula has recently started dating Michael. Paula is a Christian and Michael is an atheist. Paula really enjoys Michael’s company. Michael is a good guy, he is hard working, has a good job and is generally pleasant to be around. The only time when Paula has had any issues with Michael is when she speaks to him about her faith. He doesn’t like this and is very vocal about it. Paula is of the view that if she is patient enough she can help Michael become a Christian. In order to do so she feels that she has to make him more comfortable around her. She has started talking less about her faith and has started to do more of the things that he does so that when she decides to ask him to come to some of her fellowship meetings it will be hard for him to say no. Do you think that this is the right approach??
What advice would you give Paula?
There were a few varying points of advice given as we discussed it. What would you do if you were Paula’s friend? Do comment below!
A few notes from the meeting:
Jesus spoke and sat with sinners, prostitutes and tax collectors
It’s very easy to become a product of your environment; who you surround yourself with, walking hand in hand with someone etc
Why did Paul say 2 Corinthians 6:14? What was going on in this church? Because of division. The good vs the bad.
Lay boundaries with someone before having them become a part of your life
Look at how far you can go when being in that surrounding; know how to subtract yourself from the situation
Can they influence your thoughts?
Another brief set of notes:
Who is your friend?
Friendship is a deep thing, it’s is defined as a relationship between friends. A friend is a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. These definitions are both from the dictionary so are very precise in nature. Let’s be real, when you call someone your friend they are the person you share everything with, your deepest thoughts, your worries, your cares and even your burdens. They are who you call on when you receive some amazing news or need a shoulder to cry on. I attended a conference a few months ago and the preacher described friendship in the most profound way. He said “There are people you meet who are walls and people who are gates”. In other words people who bring growth and people who stunt your growth. We have to be able to seek wisdom from God so we can distinguish between the two. What seed is your friend planting? Is it something that will bear good fruit or something that will hinder you from bearing fruit at all.
The essence of this meeting and the particular topic touched on in regards to friendship is something we can all relate to, and face such different experiences with.
Let us continue to pray for God to surround us with the right people, Christian or not. He puts people in our lives so that we can be a light and blessing to them. Let’s not forget that.
God bless and thank you for reading.
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